“Our bundle of Joy has arrived”, this is the common phrase
which you see when a person announces the arrival of a new born. Though our
parents didn’t have WhatsApp or Facebook those days to announce our arrival in
a similar way, they still would have felt that we are their “bundle of joy”
(Hopefully J).
What happens to that bundle of Joy over a period of time? It slowly changes
from “Bundle of Joy” to “Bundle of (Sorrow, Worry, Frustration, Resentment,
etc)”
For some reason this change happens in our life. I won’t say
that we are always unhappy, but I can surely say that our happiness is reducing
a lot. Very recently, I met a person who is still a “Bundle of Joy”. I used to
see him with a smile in his face always; one day I asked him whether he has
never faced any problem in his life. With his trademark smile, he replied that
everybody will have problems in life, but how you face them is what matters.
That is when I remembered this statement which I had read
multiple times "Life is 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react to
it". I learnt from my friend that he doesn’t worry about what happens to him;
rather he chooses to face it with positive attitude. One question from him made me think, “Will all
your problems be solved if you are unhappy/upset/worried?” Then I realized, whether I am upset or not,
the problem is going to remain the same. What matters is what I do to resolve
it or how I react. If that is the case, then what is the fun in being upset, I
could rather be face it with a smile (if not a smile, at least I can avoid being
upset)
This thought triggered me to search for content about positive
attitude. And I found some interesting links about Tal Ben-Shahar who is a lecturer at Harvard
University. He handles popular course in Harvard called Positive Psychology.
Few tips from Tal
Ben-Shahar to be happy:
1.
Accept the painful Emotions
2.
Avoid Multi-Tasking
3.
Exercise (Surprised to know that this also
contributes to Happiness)
4.
Express your gratitude on Daily basis
You can find few video on this topic by Tal which will help
you to learn more. To conclude, even under pressurized situation, the smile in my
friends’ face will never fade away. I wish I can also be like him and become a “Bundle of Joy” J
To "lead" our life, yes to "lead", we need a leader who leads. "Purpose" is the leader here. As times change, the leader changes or is forced to change accordingly. Align your purpose as the "Bundle of Joy". Rest assured, there is a larger force which is driving all of us for various activities we do on a regular basis. Laterally, we ourselves or our activities can be "Bundle of joy" for others. Joy reflects joy...by making people happy will put a smile back on your face thus balancing the equation :).
ReplyDeleteLaxmi, you are always at your best in making everything look simple ;-). Totally agree with you about being "Bundle of Joy for others".
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